It hasn’t been the first time someone has encouraged me to give “online dating” a go; but each time I try it I SWEAR it will be my last.
Don’t get me wrong, I am not knocking the success potential of a website engineered to bring two complete strangers together in a cosmically romantic collision. My dad and step-mom are a product of said stars aligning, and have been happily married every since; so I know it can work. They were the first to actually encourage me to sign up for their successful matchmaker; Date.com. I guess a 25 year old single daughter who had only really dated 3 guys in her entire existence, seemed to warrant a change of relational pursuit in their minds. Couple that with small-town living amounting to slim pickin’s, and I decided it was worth a shot.
Yet, as I surfed through the responses I received yesterday on OKCupid – the most recent dating site that my best friend encouraged me to have a go with – I recalled all the reasons why I abandoned online dating to begin with.
It was my previous impression, and a now renewed one, that most of the guys on internet dating sites are creeper McCreeper’s. Player extraordinaire’s. Men looking to lengthen their laundry list of women; who have taken the ability to “work a room,” into cyberspace.
Diamond in the ruff, that is what I suppose I was hoping to find every time I logged on to one of these sites; the idea that there had to be another “hopeful” out there, who was giving something as inane as internet dating a shot. A mentality, I realized, that was no different from the one I carried with me on any given day. That I would run into my “Ryan Reynolds” and find my happily ever after.
Call me old-fashioned, but I still dream of running into a guy somewhere, having our eyes meet, getting that butterfly feeling, and finding out what his favorite way to spend a Friday night, or the six things he couldn’t live without over a shared cup of coffee in a physical coffee shop. I would still rather bump into Ryan Reynolds on the Metro than online 😉
Just not feeling the cybercafe.
Anyone had any luck with love online?