Alright…I have given in and in the last two weeks have chosen to make a concerted effort in the realm of online dating.
I live in a small town, college town to be exact, and so most men my age are either happily married with kids or living in a major metropolis (as I probably should be). So, my options here are limited, and I have been told on more than one occasion if I hope to find love, I’d have to leave this city…or go online.
So I did it. I created a profile, with an alias, and enough information to make it plain my purpose on this site, underscoring the need for any potential men to be “Christ-followers,” “patient,” “educated,” and “between the ages of 30-40.” I figure that is a fair bracket now that I’m into my 30’s (no longer just turned…sadly).
Here is what I get:
“Your hot. Lets chat sumtime.” (I listed myself as a university prof; one might think that would inspire spell-check to gain my favor).
“Hey, how are you doing?” (while this might seem harmless, it is SO unoriginal and boring).
“Gud grief, u gorgeous gurl! Can we meet up?” (Aw man, really?)
— The best is when I don’t respond to one of the above introductory lines and I get the following email (keep in mind, they can see I’ve read it and obviously chosen not to respond).
“What did I do wrong? Is it a crime to say hello?”
“Hey, you can’t even say hi back?”
“That was lame, all your degrees and you couldn’t even come up with something to say back?” (Yes, someone actually wrote that.)
On your profile, you are required to indicate what it is you are looking for, and what it is you are. So there is a space to put “religion,” “interest” (hook up, dating, relationship, etc), “age,” and so on. Usually, these guys fall under the “non-religious,” “good time,” “25 and under or 46 and over” category.
My usual response to their retort is: “If you read my profile, you’ll understand my silence.” Harsh, I know, but you will not believe how quickly an inbox can fill up on these sites and how little time I really have in a day to devote to the construction worker pick-up lines that are 90% of the content.
I am not looking for perfection, just someone who is willing to read, and maybe has something more to respond to than their perception of my pictures…
I can’t help but wonder if there is anyone out there for me……? 🙂